Dating Guidelines

  • Always tell someone where you are going with your date, with whom, and when you are expected to return.
  • Check out a first date or a blind date with friends. Meet in and go to public places. Carry money for a taxi or take your own car in case you need to cut the date short.
  • Pay attention to what your date says about him- or herself. If you detect discrepancies this should raise a flag.
  • Trust your instincts. If a place or the way your date acts makes you nervous or uneasy, get away from the situation.
  • When out with friends, keep together and try not to get separated. Do not leave a social event with someone you have just met or do not know well.
  • Be careful not to let alcohol or other drugs decrease your ability to take care of yourself and make sensible decisions.
  • Do not accept beverages from someone you do not know or trust. Always watch your drink and never leave it unattended.
  • Use common sense. Realize that you do not have the right to force a date to have sex just because you paid for dinner or drinks.
  • Accept a person’s decision when he/she says, “No!” Do not interpret it as a challenge.
  • Avoid clouding your judgment and understanding of what another person wants by using alcohol or drugs.
  • Do not assume that a person wants to have sex just because he/she is drinking heavily, dresses provocatively, or agrees to go home with you. 
  • Never have sex with anyone who is passed out.
  • Do not assume that just because a person has had sex with you previously he or she is willing to have sex with you again.
  • Do not assume that if a person consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies he or she is willing to have sexual intercourse.
  • Realize that forcing a person to have sex against his/her will is rape, a violent crime with serious consequences.
  • Never be drawn into a gang rape. Be prepared to resist pressure from friends to participate. 
  • If you see a person in trouble at a party or a friend using force or pressuring a person, do not be afraid to intervene. Your intervention may prevent the person from the trauma of sexual assault, not to mention preventing your friend from the ordeal of criminal repercussions.
  • Ask yourself how sexual stereotypes affect your attitudes and actions toward other people.
  • Seek counseling or a support group to help you deal with feelings of violence and aggression toward others.

If You Become a Victim of Date Rape

  • Get help. Do not isolate yourself, do not feel guilty, and do not ignore it. It is a crime and should be reported.
  • Get medical attention as soon as possible. Do not shower, wash, or change your clothes. Women should not douche. Valuable evidence could be destroyed.
  • Get counseling to deal with the emotional trauma.
  • If you think you’ve been assaulted while under the influence of Rohypnol or GHB, seek help immediately. Try not to urinate before providing urine samples, and if possible collect any glasses from which you drank.

"Date Rape" Drugs

  • Rohypnol (“roofies,” “circles,” “the forget pills”) works like a tranquilizer. It causes muscle weakness, fatigue, slurred speech, loss of motor coordination and judgment, and amnesia that lasts up to 24 hours. It looks like an aspirin (small, white, and round).
  • GHB (also known as “liquid X,” “salt water,” or “scoop”) causes quick sedation. Its effects are drowsiness, nausea, vomiting, headaches, dizziness, coma, and possibly death. Its most common form is a clear liquid, although it also can take the form of a white, grainy powder.
  • Rohypnol and GHB are called the date rape drugs because when they are slipped into someone’s drink a sexual assault can take place without the victim being able to remember what happened.

Online Dating

  • Never give out your home address, phone number, the name of your school, or any other personal details to people you do not know.
  • If you decide to talk to someone on the phone, ask to call him/her. Make sure to use caller ID block (*67).
  • Use a nickname in chat rooms or message boards.
  • Trust your instincts. If you pick up on contradictions or inconsistencies from your chat friend, or something does not feel right, end your communication with him/her.
  • Meet chat friends in public places.
  • Always tell someone where you are going with your online date, who your online date is, and when you will return.
  • Take a cellphone with you.
  • Never go to the house of someone you have just met.

Sexual Assault SafeLine

  • The Sexual Assault SafeLine (410-516-7333) is a confidential service of the Johns Hopkins University Counseling Center. Trained professional counselors are available to offer support, provide resources, or answer questions 24/7. A counselor can help you arrange for transportation if you need medical care, and can also arrange for an advocate to accompany you to the hospital if you wish.
  • This line is regularly monitored by our on-call counselors, so if you reach an answering machine you may leave your first name and telephone number and the on-call counselor will call you back shortly. The service is available to full-time Homewood students and Peabody students.

Emergencies

  • If you are in danger, call 911.
  • You may also call Hopkins Security at 410-516-7777 (note that your call will be recorded)